The fragile women in patriarchal society of Pakistan
“It was much easier to explain the veil than to answer questions about the wounds.”
― Pawan Mishra, Coinman: An Untold Conspiracy
We are living in a society which is men dominating. Here we can also blame our parenting. Since childhood, we taught our boys that they are much stronger than the girls, in physical and emotional both ways. We gave them the environment where men are more dominating. They can show their aggression on women which resulting into violence. Pakistan ranks 6 on the list of world’s most dangerous countries for women
To hear the word violence our mind only runs towards “maar peet” but it has many hidden types.
Rape, honor killing, marital rape, acid throwing, dowry violence, Female infanticide, forced pregnancy, forced prostitution, human trafficking, stalking, emotional abuse. Mistreatment of widows and Psychological violence are the common ones.
For a woman, her home should be the safest place for her, and her husband should be the most trusted person she has ever met. But alas! Domestic violence starts from her own home and from her own husband.
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Beating her up over silly small things to the level where her bones are broken. Last year, on Oct, 15 2019 a man chopped off his wife’s nose in Mian Chunno just because she refused to make him tea. Another event happen last year in which, A man shaved off his wife’s head in Islampura after she refused to go to become part of prostitution in Dubai.
The torture is not only physical but psychological too. Women can get traumatized by “susral walo k taany’’ and from the insulting behavior of her husband in front of anyone.
Here comes another aspect of violence which is a silent killer. It affects the nerves of women when a husband discourages his own wife and praises other girls in front of her. It will get her into the inferiority complex that why can’t she became the perfect one for her husband.
This violence is not only limited to the home but also to the workplaces. Working women are facing sexual harassment in their workplaces by their co-workers and bosses which is creating a big effect on economic growth because women are the equal contributors in the growth and progress of the country. Therefore, they deserve equal opportunities, rights and a safe environment to work in it.
One trait of women which is much appraisable, no matter how much she is broken inside she always put a fake smile on her face. We have to end this culture of torturing women and for this first step should be taken from home. She should be feeling herself safe in her home.
Blackmailing to the girls by editing and photo shopping their pictures and making them viral on social media is very common these days. The whole prank is ended up on the suicidal note of that girl that “she couldn’t bear anymore”.
There are some Laws against cybercrime in Pakistan but they are rarely executed that is why these types of incidents are increasing day by day.
Same goes with the rape victims. Our society doesn’t accept those innocent souls. No one will marry those girls. Alas! His thirst sank her in Deep Ocean of darkness.
Thousands of cases are reported every year against women violence. But in reality these are double in number because half of the population has no access to the media and they have fear to report cases against them.
Protection of women against Violence Bill was passed in Punjab Assembly in 2015. No doubt there are some laws against violence which are not implemented correctly therefore the number of cases increasing every year. Here, we cannot only blame the government and media, we, as a society are the criminals too because it is “us” who point out our fingers to the victims, it is “us” who do not let them live their lives without guilty.
In order to eradicate this issue from the society each and every person and institute have to perfume their duties. We can overcome this situation by educating women in rural areas and giving them proper rights as they deserve. Courts, police and media should also perform their duties without any biasness
About Author: Arshya Zahid is freelance columnist based in Lahore. She is graduate of Mass Communication and holds interest in lifestyle, culture, arts and history. She can be reached at Twitter: @Arshiayzahid